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Category Archives: Intimacy

“Discover Our Erotic Dimension” with Adam Chacksfield hosted by Lubo & Luchana

Posted on December 6, 2024 by AChacksfield Posted in Intimacy, Uncategorized, video

Adam Chacksfield leads an exploration of our erotic dimension and shadow play with Lubo and friends

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“Learning To Accept Oneself” with Adam Chacksfield Being Interviewed by Gayane Minassian

Posted on November 30, 2024 by AChacksfield Posted in Intimacy, Uncategorized, video

Adam Chacksfield speaks about learning to love ourselves during his Interview with Gayane Minassian

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“The Call of Love” with Adam Chacksfield Being Interviewed by Gayane Minassian

Posted on September 26, 2024 by AChacksfield Posted in Intimacy, Uncategorized, video

Adam Chacksfield speaks about the “call of love” during his Interview with Gayane Minassian

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“Awareness, Love, Desire” Interview with Adam Chacksfield by Gayane Minassian

Posted on September 26, 2024 by AChacksfield Posted in Intimacy, Uncategorized, video

Adam Chacksfield is Interviewed by Gayane Minassian on the topic of “Awareness, Love, Desire”

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“Liberating Erotic Shadows” Adam Chacksfield’s Conversation with Deborah Kat of The Better Sex Podcast

Posted on July 9, 2024 by AChacksfield Posted in Intimacy, Relationships, Uncategorized

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“Awakening to True Desire” My interview with Mystic Mag

Posted on April 28, 2024 by AChacksfield Posted in Article, Intimacy, Uncategorized


Embark on a journey of spiritual awakening and profound healing with Adam Chacksfield, whose transformative journey led him from academia to spiritual coaching. Delve into his unique approach to intimacy coaching and learn how he empowers individuals to embrace their desires and rewrite the scripts of shame around them. Learn more in his exclusive MysticMag interview by clicking here.

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Loneliness

Posted on January 20, 2014 by AChacksfield Posted in Article, Fear, Intimacy, Loneliness, Relationships 1 Comment

Loneliness

I was haunted by a fear of loneliness for many years of my life. I imagined myself as needing to acquire and maintain relationships to avoid being lonely. This made getting, keeping, and monitoring my relationships serious work, fraught with anxiety about failing and ending up lonely.

But what is loneliness? It’s not an emotion that always occurs in the absence of company. It’s more like a sense of not belonging, of not being invited to the party, feeling like an outsider.

Unfortunately, trying to ward off this experience by “having relationships” doesn’t really work, because we can’t be at ease with others when we’re needing them to make us feel like we belong. It seems like if we open ourselves up we might be rejected and have our fear of not belonging confirmed.

This is why it’s quite possible to feel lonely even in the company of others and in “relationships.” When we rely on others to give us a sense of belonging we’re always living in the shadow of fear. “It’s not safe to just be myself. What if they reject me?”

However, is it really true that we need others to validate us as “belonging?” How could we belong here any less than anyone or anything else? People will, no doubt, have all types of experiences around us. Sometimes people will be attracted to us, sometimes repelled, and all the variations and nuances in between. But how can any of their experiences make us belong here more or less?

Our very existence means that we possess an unassailably valid ticket for the party of life, complete with backstage pass. Nobody else’s words, thoughts, or feelings can ever cast the slightest doubt on this. We never have to prove the validity of our ticket to anyone.

However, this is not to be confused with the “I don’t need anyone else” attitude that pushes away the tenderness of intimacy in an attempt to protect the imagined self. On the contrary, only the dropping away of the fear of loneliness makes us truly available for intimacy. Now we are free to open to others because we don’t need anything from them. Intimacy just happens organically in the absence of fear, not as a fraught project to avoid loneliness.

And when fear of loneliness does come up we don’t need to invalidate that experience or believe that it in any way means that we don’t belong. Instead, we can become intimate with our own experience. As we do this we start to realize that we are so spacious we can accommodate it all. We can meet our experience with infinite patience and compassion. We don’t need to abandon ourselves, even if the mind labels our feelings as bad, dangerous, or unevolved.

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