Erotic Embodiment & Intimacy Coaching: Bringing Loving Awareness To Sex and Intimate Relationships

(You can also receive support by taking a personal retreat with me: Erotic Embodiment & Intimacy Personal Retreat)

Location: 6536 Telegraph Ave., Oakland, CA, or Zoom (video), or Phone.

For: Individuals, Couples, or Multi-Partner Relationships

Contact: adam@adamchacksfield.com

I offer erotic embodiment and intimacy sessions for individuals and couples using the experiential Somatica Method. I’ve trained with the Somatica Institute so that I can offer this powerful new modality for bringing loving awareness to sex and intimate relationships, an area in which so many of us have felt completely alone.

The collective shame around our erotic lives and sexuality is often so intense that most of us rarely receive any loving company in this realm beyond our intimate partners. And even with our intimate partners, our shame and fear of abandonment, and theirs, often makes it feel unsafe to honestly share our experience or feel empowered to explore new possibilities.

Even in nondual spirituality, where everything is supposedly included, sexuality is often subtly dismissed as unspiritual or too triggering to address. Yet denying the erotic dimension often deprives us of it’s juice, diminishing our inspiration, joy, and vitality. It also fails to heal the wounds that so many of us have around sexuality and intimate relationships. So we continue to get wounded and wound others, or we stay in hiding because we don’t have any safe space to lovingly explore what’s really happening.

In this work I hold no preconceived agenda about what anyone’s erotic embodiment or intimate relationships should look like. Every one of us is unique and every relationship is. I trust the wisdom of bringing loving awareness to our direct experience whatever it is. These sessions invite the discovery of what is and what wants to happen. I’m committed to empowering people to explore whatever is true for them in the realm of the erotic, sex, and intimate relationships. And I will never shame anyone for what they want or don’t want in relationships and sex, what turns them on, or what they’ve done.

The Somatica Method offers a genuinely safe space that can include experiential explorations, using the direct experience of fully-clothed client-practitioner intimacy exercises. This approach brings deeper awareness to our actual experience enabling real-time healing and the embodied discovery of new possibilities. It allows us to become more comfortable and empowered around any dimension of erotic embodiment and intimacy that is currently challenging.

These sessions are often safer than exploring with our actual partners because the stakes are so much lower. No matter what happens during the sessions you can count on me to remain reliably and lovingly available. And unlike our actual partners, there is no relationship trajectory to protect or promote because I’m not available for a sexual relationship with anyone in my work.

These sessions might be right for you if you’d like to:

• Be more empowered to ask for what you really want in intimate relationships and say “no” to what you don’t want.
• Have more ease and confidence around any aspect of intimacy.
• Feel less shame around any aspect of your erotic experience.
• Enjoy a deeper connection to the aliveness of your desires.
• Feel more free and/or more secure in your intimate relationships.

These sessions can be arranged to fit your schedule, and are available by Video or phone anywhere in the world, as well as at my office in Oakland.

“From Adam’s coaching I received the special gift of being seen, valued, and loved. It was as if my very existence was validated. Now I finally know what it means to be accepted, loved, and desired exactly as I am. I am convinced that I am loved and deserve it! I am in awe of the work Adam does with such ease, dedication, and responsibility” – Maria, Midwife, Bulgaria

“This work has not been easy for me. It is challenging, though it has gotten easier. Adam meets me each week – no matter what state I’m in – with consistent love, care, and acceptance. He embraces parts of me that I’ve kept in the darkness. I’ve noticed that as these hidden parts get more light and exposure (a chance to express themselves), some real magic starts to happen… I feel more free, powerful, and playful. Working with Adam feels right. I think I’m growing. I feel like I’m coming to life. I’m finally living the life I’ve always wanted.” – Asa, New York City, NY

“It’s beautiful to be able to safely explore places where I get scared in intimacy. I’d often been afraid to set boundaries because I expected men would shut down or leave. In my sessions with Adam he not only stays open and connected, but clearly wants to hear my boundaries. This has imprinted on a deeper level that I matter and that my boundaries and preferences matter. I’m now taking better care of myself in my dating life because I’m more willing to say “no” rather than feeling like I ought to do what my partner wants.” – C., Leadership Coach, Berkeley, CA

“Adam’s unconditionally loving presence gives ample space to feel, question, pause, explore, and heal in real-time connection. Whether I pause, change course, move away, feel unsure, or move toward, he is there accepting not rejecting. It’s so healing to feel my nervous-system updating into new possibility – that of staying healthfully attuned and connected in each moment, while erotically engaged with another dear being” – M., Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, San Francisco, CA

If you’d like to bring loving awareness to your erotic life, sexuality, or intimate relationships within the safe container of completely confidential private sessions, or you have any questions about these sessions, contact me at adam@adamchacksfield.com. I meet with clients at my office in Berkeley, CA or by video.

“In all my sessions with Adam he’s ready to meet me wherever I’m at. He doesn’t hide behind a wall of professionalism, but engages transparently with his whole self. Adam’s deep presence and open-hearted nature have allowed me to open up vulnerably – not just speaking vulnerably, but having the lived experience of being intimately met in vulnerability. My sessions with Adam are refreshingly cracking open long-held limiting beliefs about what it’s possible for me to experience with a man.” – B., MFT & Sex Therapist, Oakland, CA